Life as a Parent

Working Through Difficulties: Inspired by Maryam (as)

Asmaa - April 10, 2017
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My husband died in August 2013 when our daughter was 9 months old. In the years that followed, I wrote extensively about my experiences with widowhood and the struggles that ensued. A year and a half after I was widowed, I launched Ruqaya’s Bookshelf to host some of my longer writing pieces and as a platform to sell the books I had written. While my journey …

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On Conquering Fear: Inspired by Musa (as)

Asmaa - March 29, 2017
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Fear is something each of us knows intimately. No matter where you live or who you are, you’ve experienced some version of fear. It’s universal. We fear for our and our children’s safety. We’re afraid what will happen if we don’t have enough money to make rent or buy food or send our kids to school. We’re afraid that one wrong turn somewhere on this …

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Parenting is 99% Instinct – and You’re Doing Fine

Asmaa - January 24, 2017
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“If someone hits you, you hit them back,” I heard myself saying. “If someone pushes you, you push them back. Don’t ever let anyone hurt you.” This was my advice to my daughter since before she was fully fluent in any language. Since she was barely three years old, I have taught her that she has a right to defend herself against school bullies, children …

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Comparison is the Thief of Joy

Asmaa - January 17, 2017
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“Comparison is the thief of joy.” I’ve been reading Rising Strong by Brené Brown for the last two months (one of the perks of having kids is that you basically forget how to read unless there are pictures and rhymes in the book). She writes about how comparing yourself to others steals joy from your life. I couldn’t help but aggressively nod in agreement while …

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Life in perspective: you don’t know who’s in your womb.

Asmaa - December 8, 2016
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When you conceive a child, your hopes and dreams for that child overwhelm your heart. You discuss with your partner the way you’ll raise him, what you’ll feed him, how you’ll set a sleep schedule for him. You plan our her first few years – where she’ll go to school, what kind of friends she’ll have, what extra-curricular programs you’ll put her into. You’ll dream …

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I Stopped Shaping my Eyebrows when my Husband Died

Asmaa - September 25, 2016
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This piece isn’t really about eyebrows. When my husband was killed, so many things in my life immediately changed. I had no time to get used to the idea of him being gone. I had no time to really adjust to a new reality. I was thrown, headfirst, into this chaotic and painful hurricane of emotions and events. At some point a few weeks later, …

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God is with those who Patiently Wait

Asmaa - June 14, 2016
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We’re always in a hurry, rushing from one meeting to another. One playdate to another. One phase of life to another. Remember the story of the tortoise and the hare? We all read it as kids, or at least we all know the famous refrain, “slow and steady wins the race.” But no matter how much we try to teach ourselves through experience or stories …

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